“Life isn’t fair. It’s just fairer than death, that’s all.”
–William Goldman, “The Princess Bride”
Life is not a meritocracy. It’s not the Boy or Girl Scouts. You don’t always get a badge, patch or some other reward for being competent, good or even great in a particular area. Broadcasting, like any other business, is chock full of politics, favoritism, nepotism and other such characteristics. Many times, the best one for the job doesn’t get a sniff at the job. It’s just the way it is, and we all have to learn to deal with it.
You need to accept the fact that failure is an inevitable part of acquiring your first job or any job in this wild, wacky, wonderful business. To be honest, rejection can be frequent, but it’s essential not to take it personally. An unreturned phone call or receipt of an impersonal form letter declining your candidacy is not an indictment of you. This is about the business. Perhaps you didn’t fit what the company was looking for. Maybe the executive who received your tape or application was simply too busy to acknowledge your phone calls or letter. Maybe the job was given to a friend or an associate or someone on ‘the inside’ and you had no shot at it from the beginning. Hopefully, if you were rejected, you were able to get some kind of feedback from the company or establish a solid relationship with someone for future reference.
The object is to literally convert the rejection into the energy you will need to pursue your goals. That “Who-is-he-to-tell-me-I-don’t-have-the-talent-to-make-it-in-this business?” feeling can be converted into positive power. Once you’ve processed the putdown, internalized and rationalized it, you need to take a stance of aggressive, controlled, properly dispensed “I’ll-show-him-I-have-the-talent-to-make-it-in-this-business!” and use it. While the adrenaline is pumping, seize the moment to write that next letter, label that next demo reel or network to that next person who could help you get where you’re looking to go.
At www.marczumoff.com we’ll help you turn rejection into positive energy and opportunity!
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